The next thing that you should do is make a list of qualities that you genuinely dislike in a person. No, I am not joking! Ask yourself what are the deal breakers. Dislikes are just as important, or even more important than likes. We all have to make compromises here and there, but if you start out by ignoring or accepting things which you really dislike, at sometime or the other the truth will come out.
I would like to add a word of caution here. A lot of people make a mistake when they are dating. They put up their best behavior which is very good of course, but they try to be very adjusting and accommodating which is NOT very good. A point that they tend to over look is that they are not going to be on a camping trip with this person that they are trying to impress; they are going to be living the rest of their lives with the person. So it is best to be yourself.
If you think that you will be able to change the persons offending habits, forget it. The moment you start trying to change someones habits, whatever they may be, you become a ‘nag’ and if the person does drop the habit, he or she will love you less for it.
It really doesn’t work that way. So it’s best to have a clear idea about qualities and habits that you really dislike in a person and stay away from people who have those habits.
Once you have a fairly clear idea about your likes and dislikes you are in a better position to make the right choice. And considering all the people out there, don't start worrying that you might not find any one at all. He or she is out there, and if you keep looking, you will find them.
Some people believe that every thing is all right. That it has been written down who should marry who and in the end only the things which should happen will happen. Well, I don’t know about that, but I do know that dating helps speed up the process.
I would like to add a word of caution here. A lot of people make a mistake when they are dating. They put up their best behavior which is very good of course, but they try to be very adjusting and accommodating which is NOT very good. A point that they tend to over look is that they are not going to be on a camping trip with this person that they are trying to impress; they are going to be living the rest of their lives with the person. So it is best to be yourself.
If you think that you will be able to change the persons offending habits, forget it. The moment you start trying to change someones habits, whatever they may be, you become a ‘nag’ and if the person does drop the habit, he or she will love you less for it.
It really doesn’t work that way. So it’s best to have a clear idea about qualities and habits that you really dislike in a person and stay away from people who have those habits.
Once you have a fairly clear idea about your likes and dislikes you are in a better position to make the right choice. And considering all the people out there, don't start worrying that you might not find any one at all. He or she is out there, and if you keep looking, you will find them.
Some people believe that every thing is all right. That it has been written down who should marry who and in the end only the things which should happen will happen. Well, I don’t know about that, but I do know that dating helps speed up the process.
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ye sahi hai hum hamesha dusuro ko aapna achha coin ka part dekhte hai aur jo humare andar galta hai (dat means ho sakta hai dusre us part ko pasand na kare)use chhupte hai ye galat hai agar koi tumhe pasand karta hai to use tumhare har pehlu ke baare mein pataa hona chahiye.usne tumhari kuch achhi baate dekh kar hi pasand kiya hoga to use tumhare mein jo kami hai uske baare mein pataa hona chahiye aur use bhi accept karna chahiye. Its apply in every relation kahi na kahi compromise to hoga nobody is perfect.
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