BIG word SACRIFICE in LOVE

Loving someone unconditionally is to love him for whom he is without any expectations. It is not easy to learn about an abstract concept like love.

To understand the basis for a deeper and meaningful relationship with unconditional love,

Take responsibility for how you react to a person or situation. You are the one that determines if you are happy or sad. Prevent the blame game and gain control over your life and love.

Approach your love relationship without any predetermined mindset. Know that nobody is perfect and everyone has her own gifts and shortcomings.

Give the space and freedom the other person needs. To love someone deeply is to grow together in the spirit. Controlling the other person does not assure you of a secure relationship. The feeling of your partner's love is enough security.

Believe that love given in its truest form comes back one way or the other. Give yourself wholeheartedly without any boundaries. Love is possible without hurt only when ego is dropped completely.

Accept your partner and their limitations without any judgment.
Grow in the relationship based on trust and sacrifice instead of self-satisfaction alone.

Never think Marriage is the ultimate goal of love. Family, Values, Acceptance, Trust & Confidence bring zeal to life.

Love the other person for their existence in your life than for what they do for you.

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Help Poor get an Education

This is the biggest help one can done for the welfare of the society.
Poorest and most needy dont have the ability to think.
They know begging since birth. They dont know how to get rid of their problems.
Helping poor get an education is a shining example of how a small gesture brings hope to many who would otherwise never have a chance.
Make the poor parents realise what they want for their children.
They understand what a good education can bring.
Yet, the education bureaucracy continues to funding for each child and forces students into schools where they will receive a good education.
We need to act for other people in our society
It may be our house maid, our relative, our neighbour or anyone intersted in studying but not getting financial aid
We can see that education loan is around approx 12% which is unbearable in today`s competitive world.
To help out any case of education loan can make the career & life of not only that child but of their whole family.
So start funding the child with love & education.
Funding the child will bring hope to many & to the nation as well.

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kyunki mai naraaz hoon......

Mujhe bhi Choclate & Coco spa chahiye..
Ek joy ride chahiye apni city ki by my private jet..
I want an adventurous holiday on weekend to manesar..
& most essentially I want to get myself pampered like Princess..

If anybody can shower me all this luxuries then only I will come back in mood!!

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Love vs Arrange Marriage

I just don`t understand why people are still against love marriages.
They give their children a freedom to eat, dress, study, pursue hobbies & career of their own choices but not marriage.
They trust their childrens, love them, adore them & fulfill their all wishes.

But when it comes to marriage, scenario changes..

First they object on caste, then they object on looks, then they object on financial status.
I mean what they suddenly start thinking.
They are loosing control and resist change only i guess.

For marriage, compatability should be seen, insecurirites should be sort out, dreams & thinking should be matched.

And please leave back your conservative approach and accept happily the new people in your life.

With love all things are possible
Make sure there is no guarantee in arrange marriage to be successful.

So don`t stick to old rituals so firmly and keep on believing it is right all the time.

Its about perspective only.

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Life is not so easy

You never know what is going to be come in your way even in next 2 minutes.
No No I am not talking about all the good things but the unexpected shocks which we get when we were not even prepared for..

I had the same jhatka right now regarding PBI.

& right now I am just absorbing it silently........ gulpppss!!!

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All is Well

All is Well funda really works..

I apply it to relax from my anxiety about my last exam or presentation seminar or project deadline.

Its true that situation or a time once gone can never come back then why to worry all the time about the things we can`t change.

So make your heart fool by saying All is Well and one day definitely things will become perfectly which you actually wanted or desire or deserve.

For now laugh at confusion, smile through tears & someday everything will make perfect sense because whatever happens - happens for the reason..

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3 Idiots

I am a big fan of Aamir.
He is such a perfectionist and from his movie he spreaded an excellent message that,

DONT RUN AFTER SUCCESS INSTEAD STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE

Its true & i believe in it.

So many things to learn from this movie.
After LOVE AAJKAL I like it.

Its a must watch..

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The Gentle Whisper

The young man had lost his job and didn't know which way to turn. So he went to see the old preacher. Pacing about the preacher's study, the young man ranted about his problem. Finally he clenched his fist and shouted, "I've begged God to say something to help me. Tell me, Preacher, why doesn't God answer?"
The old preacher, who sat across the room, spoke something in reply -- something so hushed it was indistinguishable.
The young man stepped across the room. "What did you say?" he asked.
The preacher repeated himself, but again in a tone as soft as a whisper.
So the young man moved closer until he was leaning on the preacher's chair.
"Sorry," he said. "I still didn't hear you."
With their heads bent together, the old preacher spoke once more.
"God sometimes whispers," he said, "so we will move closer to hear Him.."
This time the young man heard and he understood.
We all want God's voice to thunder through the air with the answer to our problem.
But God's is the still, small voice . . . the gentle whisper.
Perhaps there's a reason.
Nothing draws human focus quite like a whisper.
God's whisper means I must stop my ranting and move close to Him, until my head is bent together with His.
And then, as I listen, I will find my answer.
Better still, I find myself closer to God.

OUR HIDDEN WISH
you keep on wishing thingswithout giving a real thoughtbetter guard your thinking, dear
for it might be delivered to your doorstep...

just be grateful for all the things
that is coming on your way
be it your job or something
just learn to smile and pray...

people and all the situations
sometimes are beyond control
disrupting our long-term plans
creating havoc on our lives...

always remember this
there is no coincidence
things are happening to us
because it is our hidden wish....

Umemployed Graduate

An unemployed graduate woke up one morning and checked his pocket. All he had left was $10.
He decided to use it to buy food and then wait for death as he was too proud to go begging.
He was frustrated as he could find no job, and nobody was ready to help him.
He bought food and as he sat down to eat, an old man and two little children came along and asked him to help them with food as they had not eaten for almost a week.
He looked at them.
They were so lean that he could see their bones coming out.
Their eyes had gone into the sockets.
With the last bit of compassion he had, he gave them the food.
The old man and children prayed that God would bless and prosper him and then gave him a very old coin.
The young graduate said to them 'you need the prayer more than I do'.
With no money, no job, no food, the young graduate went under the bridge to rest and wait for death.
As he was about to sleep, he saw an old newspaper on the ground.
He picked it up, and suddenly he saw an advertisement for people with old coins to come to a certain address.
He decided to go there with the old coin the old man gave him.
On getting to the place, he gave the proprietor the coin.
The proprietor screamed, brought out a big book and showed the young graduate a photograph.
This same old coin was worth 3 million dollars.
The young graduate was overjoyed as the proprietor gave him a bank draft for 3 million dollars within an hour.
He collected the Bank Draft and went insearch of the old man and little children.
By the time he got to where he left them eating, they had gone.
He asked the owner of the canteen if he knew them.
He said no but they left a note for you.
He quickly opened the note thinking it would lead him to find them.
This is what the note said: 'You gave us your all and we have rewarded you back with the coin,' signed God the Father, The Son and The Holy Ghost.

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Sacrifice

The following story is not a part of Fiction. It's a real story taken from Real Life Love stories.....Please feel free to share it...

There was once this guy who is very much in love with his girl. This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his girl.

Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his future didn't seem too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then...

Heartbroken, the guy agreed. But when he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself.

Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company ..

You never fail until you stop trying. One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walk ing to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realize they were his girl's parents.

With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same any more; he had his own company, car,condo, etc. He made it! What he saw next confused him, the couple was
walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and followed...and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes right beside her...

Her parents saw him. He asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was ill with cancer. She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle... therefore she had chosen to leave him.
Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again...he can take some of those back with him...

Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may escape but what's in your heart will remain forever.

The guy just wept...The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside her knowing you can't have her, see her or be with her ever again.........hope you understand.

Find time to realize that there is one person who means so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who you thought meant nothing to you

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Understanding Myself

What do i actually want has become the biggest question of my life which
I am facing these days.

"samajh samajh kai jo naa samjhe meri samajh mai wo nasamajh hai"

I am proving the phrase by doing the same mistake again & again & again.

People come & go after leaving their strong impression in life.
Attachment happens easily but detachment.. uff! It is the real scary thing
i always fear of.

Missing some one & holding onto the memories for so long is quite obvious.
You get habitual of talking to some1, seeing them, meeting them or going out
with them and one day you make an decision to separate..

But its not as simple as that.

But as they say time heals everything and everything happens for the reason.
I am hoping to get out of my old memories (all bad ones) and focus on myself now.

But hey wait.. this is what i am not clear about in this present state of mind.

I am having so much of expectations from myself only and I am the only one who
is not able to fulfill any.

I guess i need to understand myself by trying different things.
God knows where i will stick now and get addicted again..

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Men are from MARS & Women are from VENUS

Punch Line : Boy seeks Physical & Social Needs but Girl seeks Emotional & Financial Needs


Are you thinking about giving up?


You've probably tried everything you can think of to revitalize your love, right?
You probably have. But here's a few other ideas you may want to consider & try.


Remember you have things in common, some parts of your personality are similar to theirs.
Engage in conversation about anything deeper than the normal, superficial
"how are you?" The typical response to that is "fine."
Let your spouse know that you are genuinely interested in them and their thoughts and feelings.

Do things together that you used to like doing, like watching your favorite serial,
taking evening walks, working outside, going to the park, or eating out.
The bottom line is: you can be in love with someone, but you're marriage is only going to last
if you remember all the reasons why you actually like that person.

If you think they have changed and you realize that you don't like your spouse,
take time to examine their lives, hearts, character, and opinions.
Chances are, you'll be able to create a long list of things that you like about your spouse.
And that will help you re-connect.

Realize that the one thing you want from your spouse may be different than
the one thing they want most from you. For example, it is common knowledge that
men crave the respect of their wives more than anything else,
and that women desperately need to know that their husbands love them.
If either of these is thrown into doubt, even for an instant, it can wreak havoc on the person's state of mind,
and will cause a gap in your marriage.

Your husband needs to know that you respect him. He believes that if he feels respected by you,
then he automatically feels loved. Feeling respect is the gateway to how men perceive love.

Wives, on the other hand, desperately need to be convinced of their husband's love.
If they doubt that fact, they will be confused, anxious, over-analyzing, suspicious, and ultimately devastated.
Women tend to personalize and internalize everything, so if the woman doesn't feel loved,
she'll assume that her husband must not love her and that she is somehow the source of the problem.
When a woman feels loved by her husband, she automatically feels respected.
There's no question about it for her, because everything else easily falls into place as soon as she feels secure in her husband's love.

So now you realize that men & women want and need different things from each other.
Take action! Find out how your husband most wants to know & feel respected, then do it!
For example, if you merely say, "Honey, I really respect you," and your husband still doesn't
really feel respected, what did you do wrong? Perhaps you simply missed his pressure points.
Perhaps what he really needs is for you to let him make a decision in front of your or his friends.
Or trust him to take care of something and not nag him about it. Perhaps he wants more respectful
"actions" from you, rather than just words. Find out which he responds to best!

All you husbands out there! Does your wife ask you all the time, "do you really love me?"
Or some version? Or do you see the question in her eyes, always nagging at her?
Why can't she quit worrying if you love her or not? Of course you love her;
you married her and you provide for her!

But your wife may simply need you to show her or tell her that you love her in a different way.
Instead of words, maybe she really loves it when you hug her and touch her face.
Or maybe she really feels your love when you do something around the house without having to be asked.
Explore the different ways that your wife wants to feel & hear your love. You won't be disappointed!

Pursue your spouse. This means not waiting for them to make the first move to apologize after a squabble.
This means going that extra mile to do something nice for them, like filling their gas tank,
without any thought of acknowledgment or gratitude. Remember when you were dating and you did all those sweet
and wonderful things for each other? You made her handmade things, you bought him stuff,
you went fun places just to be alone? What happened? What made you think that she stopped liking those things?
Why do you think that he no longer wants to go to all those fun places?

Do nice things for your spouse, and don't wait for them to make the first move,
even if you feel like you've been the only one trying. Sooner or later,
your spouse is going to recognize the difference in you and will begin to appreciate
all the sacrifices that you're making for them. Keep your chin up and keep going!

These ideas are only suggestions, and they are certainly not the only ideas out there on the subject.
But I think you'll find if you really get to know what your partner needs and then cater to those exact needs,
you're marriage will be revitalized, revamped, and re-romanced!
Before giving up on your marriage, give these suggestions a try.

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Marriage - The BIG Question.....?

The question - that should you propose marriage, or should you say yes to his/her proposal haunts many of you in relationships. When should you marry? What are the pre-requisites for that? Let us find out.

The first need, of course, is that both of you love each other. It should not be infatuation or plain old lust, but love. To be in love means, you like to be with that person. You enjoy his/her togetherness. You care for her/him and you can trust that person. Being in love means that you can share your deepest secrets without fear and give and expect support. Being in love means that your object of love is the most important person in your life and you would not like to leave him/her for anybody else. If any of these conditions are not met, it is not love but something else. Oh, yes, one last requirement - your heart should pound every time you talk to your loved or look at him/her.

If you are in love and if your partner reciprocates it with the same intensity then the next would be interests. What is common between both of you? If he is a liberal and you are a conservative to the core, life would be a little difficult. We are not talking in political terms, but about attitude and values. If you do not value what he/she values, your relationship will not prosper. If your values say that you must be honest at all times, and his/her values allow lies now and then, you are sure to get into a conflict after some time.

The third requirement is life goals. Are you sharing common goals? Your goal may be to earn lot of money even at the cost of family life and his/her need may be to live happily even if money is less, you will again clash. Values and goals are important. They play a bigger role in life after the initial euphoria of love is over. The last need is - are you feeling safe committing to him/her? Are you feeling safe committing or would like to search around more? Once you can decide that all these are in the right place, you should marry. Otherwise, life may be full of acrimony, dissatisfaction and regrets. It will not be a happy marriage but a marriage that has to be carried through. That will give no pleasure.


the rule of care (meet each other's most important emotional needs), the rule of protection (avoid being the cause of each other's unhappiness), the rule of time (schedule time each week to give each other undivided attention) and the rule of honesty (be totally honest with each other).

Marry the man who has everything you want, at least at the time of your marriage.

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