Be Patient

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

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this would change your perception about all your relations and brighten your day for sure..!!!

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

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NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a nd discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

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NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

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Right Speech

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered," You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

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Personal Perception

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them rides on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

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Love you Forever

You thought I was weak,
You took your call by walking outta my life,
Not caring how I felt, or how I’d survive,
You believed I was lonely,
You were the centre of my universe,
And you threw it all away,

You considered me understanding and different,
And came close to me, saying we were meant to be…

Memories of times bygone linger in my mind,
I’m sure they’re in your trash bins rotting away,

As I watch you stroll and smirk,
I believe you’re happy or at least pretending…

I still cringe when I feel your eyes on me,
Your voice and presence make me go insane,
For all my moving on, I still keep coming back…

It bothers me…

And your being bothered or not,
Doesn’t matter anymore.

but who cares?
I still Love you Forever

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Embrace all Equally

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to
where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips
and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey.


When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman.
She was sitting in the park, just staring at some pigeons.
The boy sat down next to her and opened his suitcase.
He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that
the old lady looked hungry, so he offered her some chips.
She gratefully accepted it and smiled at him.


Her smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again,
so he offered her a root beer. Again, she smiled at him.
The boy was delighted! They sat

There all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.




As twilight approached, the boy realized how tired he was and
he got up to leave; but before he had gone more than a few steps,
he turned around, ran back to the old woman, and gave her a hug.
She gave him her biggest smile ever.


When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later,
his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face.
She asked him, "What did you do today that made you so happy?"
He replied, " I had lunch with God." But before his mother could
respond, he added, "You know what? She's got the most beautiful
smile I've ever seen!"

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નરસિંહ મહેતા – જળકમળ છાડી જાને (my childhood favourite) - with English Translation

જળકમળ છાડી જાને બાળા, સ્વામી અમારો જાગશે
જાગશે તને મારશે મને બાળ હત્યા લાગશે…

કહે રે બાળક તું મારગ ભુલ્યો, કે તારા વેરીએ વળાવીઓ
નિશ્ચલ તારો કાળ ખુટ્યો, અહીંયા તે શીદ આવીઓ…

નથી નાગણ હું મારગ ભુલ્યો, નથી મારા વેરીએ વળાવીઓ,
મથુરા નગરીમાં જુગટુ રમતા નાગનું શીશ હું હારીઓ…

રંગે રૂડો રૂપે પુરો દિસંત કોડિલો કોડામણો,
તારી માતાએ કેટલા જનમ્યાં તેમાં તું અળખામણો…

મારી માતાએ બે જનમ્યાં તેમાં હું નટવર નાનેલો
જગાડ તારા નાગને મારૂં નામ કૃષ્ણ કાનુડો…

લાખ સવાનો મારો હાર આપું, આપું તુજને દોરીઓ,
એટલું મારા નાગથી છાનું આપું તુજને ચોરીઓ…

શું કરું નાગણ હાર તારો, શું કરું તારો દોરીઓ,
શાને કાજે નાગણ તારે કરવી ઘરમાં ચોરીઓ…

ચરણ ચાંપી મૂછ મરડી, નાગણે નાગ જગાડિયો,
ઉઠોને બળવંત કોઇ, બારણે બાળક આવીયો…

બેઉ બળિયા બાથે વળગ્યાં, કૃષ્ણે કાળીનાગ નાથિયો,
સહસ્ત્ર ફેણ ફુંફવે, જેમ ગગન ગાજે હાથિયો…

નાગણ સૌ વિલાપ કરે જે, નાગને બહું દુઃખ આપશે,
મથુરાનગરીમાં લઇ જશે, પછી નાગનું શીશ કાપશે…

બેઉ કર જોડી વિનવે સ્વામી ! મુકો અમારા કંથને,
અમે અપરાધી કાંઇ ન સમજ્યાં, ન ઓળખ્યાં ભગવંતને…

થાળ ભરીને નાગણી સર્વે મોતીડે, શ્રીકૃષ્ણ વધાવિયો,
નરસૈંયાના નાથ પાસેથી, નાગણે નાગ છોડાવીયો…

-નરસિંહ મહેતા (Narsinh Mehta)

English Translation (Conversation between Lord Krishna and Kaliya Naag`s wife)


Kaliya naag`s Wife :

Leave this river full of lotuses,
child You might wake up our master fast asleep.
He will definitely not spare you if he wakes
Moreover, the sin of murdering a mere child will be on our heads!

Leave this river.."

Tell me, boy, have you lost your way, or has some foe led you astray?
You seem to have run out of your time, dear child, Or else, why would
you ever think of coming here?

Leave this river.. "


Krishna`s Answer : No I haven't lost my way and no foe can lead me astray, O consorts of Cobra, back there in
Mathura I just happened to lose your man's head in a friendly bet!"


Kaliya naag`s Wife : Leave this river.. "You are so cute, so pretty, so irresistible!
Tell us how many children your mother has So that you are unwanted?


Leave this river.. "


Krishna`s Answer : I am Natwar, the younger of two brothers Go and
wake up that snake of yours I am Krishna- the dark one!"


Kaliya naag`s Wife :

Leave this river.. "
Come, come, we will give you garland worth lakhs,
We will give you necklace made of pure gold, Without letting our master know!"


Leave this river.. "

Krishna`s Answer : What am I to do with that garland of yours?
Pray what is the use of that necklace to Me? And why should you
pilfer in your own house, O serpents?'


Kaliya naag`s Wife :
Leave this river.. "
Distraught they shook up the sleeping master by feet, They wrenched him by his
whiskers in great distress

"o Wake up master", they said
"there is child at our door"

The two powerful ones were locked in mortal combat, In no time Krishna mastered the colossai cobra,
His thousands hood hissing furiously
LIke the thundering lunar constellation in monsoon

"He will torture our Cobra" the wives lamenetd
"he will take him to Mathura and behead him
O forgive our husband" they pleaded
"We ignorant sinners could not recognize you
We could not fathom you, O lord"


They offered pearls in devotion and somehow managed to rescue
their seized husband from Narsaiyaa`s lord.

Krishna then forgives and ask them to leave Yamuna

Its video is available at link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkZEyLs3Qyg&feature=player_embedded

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Nothing is Interesting if you are not intersted

Once somebody told me that I am crazy about doing so and so thing in so and so way.
I also got convinced about that idea and felt like it could be the best thing to do.

Years later when i thought of doing that thing one another person told me that
it would be the worst thing to do one could think of

Then I realised that they both have differnt perspective of the same thing
because one is intersted and one is not.

Nobody in this world is bad
Nothing in this world is bad

Its just how you look at it
If you are intersted then you like and if you are not you will make excuses.

Also for your personal crucial decision never ever take anyone`s advice.
Everyone will give their word as per their experience and circumstances.
And there is no specific formula to be happy and successful.
Hear everyone but do only what you fell you can do.
So go with your own call only.

Life will definitely call you if you are true.

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Marriage is like Lottery Ticket

Yeah its true guys
Whatever picture you dreamt of it is not actually available to you.

Instead you have to fit yourself in the frame presented to you
If you adjust and co-operate then everything will fell into right place automatically.

Dont panic and try it.
May be wou will win a Jack Pot in it.

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