I don’t think many people realize this because they think,
as long as the rudeness isn’t directed to me, I don’t have a
problem. I believe that rudeness not only affects the
person they are rude to, but also others. One of the things
I have always tried to make a
safe environment. Noone is allowed to be rude to me or to
anyone. There were no name calling or bullying tolerated at all.
One of the ways to teach this was being respectful.
Greet people with a handshake (which is also an important job skill) and call by names (do remember it carefully).
Everyone actually enjoy this small act of respect that I gave them.
We talked a lot about rudeness and ways that people are rude.
We also talked about how we might not see something one way
but that others would perceive it differently and that we
need to be aware of these perceptions. I notice this when
some people are in a public place and are talking extremely
loudly on their cell phones. This drives me crazy but the
person on the phone never seems to notice other people.
After we do certain acts of rudeness, Don’t stop
there. Instead come up with a replacement
behavior or alternative to the behavior. Just by recognizing
the behavior is not enough. One need to know what else to
do because sometimes rudeness can be a habit. Instead of
making fun of people, practice encouraging them
by applauding after a presentation, or giving them encouraging
words when they are struggling. This behavior
actually improves peer relationships too.
We look at tone of voice and body language too. Sometimes when
we are mad (at others or ourselves) we can be rude to others.
Removing ourselves from a situation or explaining to others how
we are feeling can sometimes help.
Learning self awareness is important. Our actions really do
affect others and can cause negative effects if we are rude.
We need to know what we are doing and why we are doing them in
order to be successful in today’s society.
as long as the rudeness isn’t directed to me, I don’t have a
problem. I believe that rudeness not only affects the
person they are rude to, but also others. One of the things
I have always tried to make a
safe environment. Noone is allowed to be rude to me or to
anyone. There were no name calling or bullying tolerated at all.
One of the ways to teach this was being respectful.
Greet people with a handshake (which is also an important job skill) and call by names (do remember it carefully).
Everyone actually enjoy this small act of respect that I gave them.
We talked a lot about rudeness and ways that people are rude.
We also talked about how we might not see something one way
but that others would perceive it differently and that we
need to be aware of these perceptions. I notice this when
some people are in a public place and are talking extremely
loudly on their cell phones. This drives me crazy but the
person on the phone never seems to notice other people.
After we do certain acts of rudeness, Don’t stop
there. Instead come up with a replacement
behavior or alternative to the behavior. Just by recognizing
the behavior is not enough. One need to know what else to
do because sometimes rudeness can be a habit. Instead of
making fun of people, practice encouraging them
by applauding after a presentation, or giving them encouraging
words when they are struggling. This behavior
actually improves peer relationships too.
We look at tone of voice and body language too. Sometimes when
we are mad (at others or ourselves) we can be rude to others.
Removing ourselves from a situation or explaining to others how
we are feeling can sometimes help.
Learning self awareness is important. Our actions really do
affect others and can cause negative effects if we are rude.
We need to know what we are doing and why we are doing them in
order to be successful in today’s society.
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